An open letter to the woman who feels like there’s something missing…

November 12, 2015

Sitting here in this cafe, surrounded by groups of women who are leaning in close and confiding in each other, I’m more certain than ever that I need to write this. I hear it in the conversation that carries above the music, and I see it in the encouraging hugs of hello and goodbye; we women need each other—to cheer each other on, to lift each other up, and to help each other when we’re in that place of feeling like there’s just something missing.

And so I write to you—the woman who might be frazzled by life or disconnected from what you’re truly passionate about. The woman who might be focusing on things that aren’t important to you, simply because other people think that’s what you should be doing. The woman who has dreams tucked away, high on a shelf, unsure if you’ll ever be able to pursue them. The woman who longs to live life with more significance and meaning.

I write to you because I’ve been there. I know how it feels to lose sight of the things that make your heart sing.

When I found myself in that place years ago, it was the start of a new journey for me. And I began to realize what the missing something was. As it surfaced in glimpses of insight and understanding (and sometimes even in whispers) things started to become clear.

One of those glimpses came the first time I spoke to a large audience. I remember walking on stage with my knees shaking. But beyond the nerves, there was exhilaration… and a strange sense of peace. There was something in that moment that spoke to my soul. When I talk to women, hear their stories, and cheer them on, I feel it too—a sense of certainty that I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing.

That sense of knowing my purpose.

When we come to understand who we are and the difference we can make simply because of our uniqueness, we find our voice. Our passion grows and we begin to live in that sweet spot of being truly authentic.

We begin to live: inspired, fearless and thriving. 

Does that mean you’ll never get scared? That once you understand more about who you are, you’ll be totally sure about the path ahead and what you’ll be doing in the next several years? Hardly. It just means that your understanding of why you’re here will allow you to live more intentionally, and more bravely. When you have a strong sense of what you’re supposed to be doing, you’re able to move forward and do it—even if it frightens you.

These are the things I’ve been talking about with my friends Pam and Kirsten lately. (The three of us are passionate about helping women see their true value and thrive.)

I wish you could have been with us in Kirsten’s dining room, the rain pounding outside as we talked a mile a minute about our hopes for women to live full and fearless lives. I wish you could’ve shared your own story as we shared ours with each other over morning conversations at coffee. I wish you could’ve sat with us on the patio that afternoon in the sunshine as we brainstormed ideas for helping women to live free and unstuck.

But even though you weren’t there, you were on our minds. And through those conversations, LIFT was born – a gathering of women to help you Live: Inspired, Fearless, and Thriving.

How would your life be different if you better understood your value? What impact could you have on your world? What’s holding you back? These are the questions we explore at LIFT, and we’d love to have you with us at one of our events. You’ll take a step closer to discovering the real you and living more fully. Pam, Kirsten and I aren’t perfect and we don’t have it all figured out. We’re just three women with different stories who have learned that knowing who you are, and why you’re here, can make a huge impact in your life, and the lives of others!

-Genny